View Article  Hair Today, Gone Tomorrow

One of the most nerve-wracking experiences parents face is having their child’s hair cut. Will the child sit still, will the cut be ok, will my child like it, will I like it? In the city of Toronto several small businesses compete for this specialty niche market.

Two of the local players in my area are Melon Heads and Little Tots Hair Salon. After two botched cuts at Melon Heads and almost 8 months without a cut my daughter’s hair was falling into her eyes and she was sporting split-ends galore. It was time to brave another hair cutting experience with my three year old daughter, Kiera.

What does any web-savvy parent do when looking for a place to cut their child’s hair – check for reviews on the internet. Enter Little Tots Hair Salon in the Beaches area of Toronto - “Voted "Toronto's #1 Children's Hair Salon" by City Parent Magazine Poll”. According to their web site, open late on Thursday’s till 8:00pm.

Kiera and I arrive at Little Tots at 5:40pm on Thursday, September 14th along with another parent and her children whom we hold the door for letting them enter ahead of us. There is only one way to teach manners to a young child and that is by demonstration. However, what ensues next is a lesson in how to be “mannerless,” and two fatal business errors that will cost any small business customers.

Laura, the lady cutting hair does not greet us; instead she says rather gruffly “How many hair cuts?” The lady we let enter in front us says “Two.” I say just my daughter “One”. What follows next is word-for-word our conversation:

Laura: Well, I can’t cut your daughters hair.
Me: Why?
Laura: Well, we close at 6:00pm
Me: I checked your web site before coming it indicated you close at 8:00pm on a Thursday.
Laura: The web site has been out-of-date for months.
Me: Are you sure you can’t squeeze her in, I drove 25 minutes in traffic and just paid money at the metre for parking?
Laura: No, I can’t. We close at 6:00pm, and frankly ANY RESPONSIBLE PARENT WOULD HAVE CALLED THE STORE TO VERIFY THE HOURS ON THE WEB SITE ARE ACCURATE. IT IS NOT MY PROBLEM.
Me: I am sorry but it’s not my responsibility to verify the accuracy of the content of the information on your web site. It’s the responsibility of the owner’s to keep their web presence up-to-date. Further, if you have known the information is out-of-date for months, why wasn’t it corrected by now?
Laura: I don’t have time for this, we are short-staffed today and I have to leave right at 6:00pm.

I just walked right out the door and will never patronize Little Tots Hair Salon in the Beaches.

There are two lessons to be learned from this experience for small business owners. First, your web site is your virtual business presence. It’s no different than the sign you hang on your door with the hours. In this day and age, parents with busy schedules often conduct their research online. If your web site is not up-to-date, it has the potential to cost you customers.

I say “potential” to cost customers because had Laura responded “I am so sorry but the information on our web site is incorrect. I am going to bring it to the immediate attention of the owners to have it updated and prevent this problem from occurring again. Please take a lollipop for your daughter and I hope that you will return to have her hair cut at our salon. Please accept my sincere apology.” I probably would have returned, apology accepted.

Which brings me to the second lesson; customers are never wrong, never at fault and certainly should never be blamed. It was certainly not my responsibility to verify the accuracy of their web site.

This story does have a happy-ending. We walked further down the street to Hair Dynamics and Kiera got her best hair cut to-date. Further, they treated her like a princess giving her lollipops, a blue slushie drink, practiced patience with her wiggling around and even offered me complimentary water, espresso, etc. If you visit them for a child’s cut ask for Nilo, wonderful cut.

The cost was $1 more than it would have been at Little Tot but the hair cut and experience were priceless.

Little Tots, I hope you are listening “Customers maybe “hair” today but gone tomorrow.”

Photos of the new cut follow:



View Article  Lactation Bar - I went and drank! My thoughts.

As someone with lactivist tendencies Frank and I did take little K to the Lactation Bar mentioned in this earlier blog entry. I went initially without the desire to taste other people's breast milk but once there found the lure of comparing my milk to others strong.

I tasted the last two milks on the sampling menu for the evening. They were called "Straight up with a Twist" and "Truth Serum #9". 3mm of milk in each little plastic shot glass. You were invited to look at it, spot the differences, sniff and then drink all at a very cozy bar which Jess played bartender at.

When prompted by Jess, the fellow beside me said he came to taste BM because his mother did not BF him and he always felt somewhat "incomplete" about it. I found that very interesting.

The first milk, Straight Up with a Twist was not too unlike mine but mine is sweeter with more body. Wow, I feel like I am writing about a wine!.  The donor walked up as we tasted it - so that was neat.

The second milk Truth Serum #9 almost made me gag on the aftertaste. I found it very strong with a bit of a bite. Jess told us afterwards the donor of that milk was vegetarian - illustrating how diet affects the flavour of milk.

I have to say I don't like the taste of my milk and liked the milk I tasted even less - maybe the pasteurization affects the taste?

Now, I know most of my friends reading this are going to say are you nuts? No one at the event was promoting the notion adults should be drinking breast milk on a regular basis. The event was to explore the taboos around something that is 100% natural - Mother's milk and artist choose to do it by having a lactation bar.

Really why are humans the ONLY species the drink milk past the developmental stage usually marked by the loss of the "milk" teeth (primary teeth)? Why do we have such low and abysmal rates of BFing? Why do we think it is ok to give our children milk from another mammal - the cow, or the goat? Why not HUMAN milk right from the tap? Why is extended breastfeeding (which should not even be called that, the natural course is to let a child self-wean) frowned upon? Its what those breasts were made for!

I fully recognize some mother's can not BF for medicinal reasons, or can not produce enough milk, etc and this is not meant as a slight against them. When you try your hardest and it does not work of course other options should be available.

However, when your milk factory is working just fine I have to ask myself why when the Canadian Pediatric Society, Dietitians of Canada, Health Canada and the World Health Organization recommend exclusive breastfeeding for the first six months of life, and continuing with complementary foods for up to two years and beyond it is consider nuts to breastfeed your child to two and beyond?

Signed,

Tash
A proud lactivist who is still nursing her two year old!

More information:
Article in the Toronto Star on the event.
Blog entry from one of the donors.
Statement of the Joint Working Group: Canadian Pediatric Society, Dietitians of Canada and Health Canada
WHO - Exclusive Breastfeeding

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